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You must sell yourself to women and if they become your friend
they will see you are a nice guy and may become more than a friend.
This is so important.
In a singles bar if you want to meet women, go up to them in a
non sexual, non physical way. Go up to them and just say "Hi". That's
all. I met a beautiful girl named Lisa in a singles bar and here is
how I did it. I was at the Holiday Inn one night and I saw this
beautiful girl sitting at a table with a girlfriend. She had long
black hair and was fairly young. I knew the worst thing to do was ask
her to dance, because I saw her turn down a bunch of guys.
Now singles dances are different than singles bars. At the
singles dances, women go to dance. In a bar you will get turned down
ten times more than at a singles dance. I'd rather go to a singles
dance, but a lot of guys still go to the bars so I want to tell them
how to succeed.
I go to singles bars about once a month just to see how I can
meet women there. Anyway, back to Lisa. I saw her sitting at a table
and was deciding how to meet her. I just decided to go over and say
hi. I went over to the table:
"Hi", I said to both of them.
"Hi", they replied back.
"Do you girls like the band?"
"Yes", they both said.
"My name's
Wayne,
what are your names?"
"My name's Lisa and this is Joyce."
"Nice to meet you."
"Sometimes it's hard to talk because the band is so loud. I like
the music and love to dance, but the dance floor is so small in here."
"Yes it is." said Lisa.
Lisa did most of the talking and she was the one I was interested
in but I was friendly with both of them. I told them it was nice
meeting them and left. Very important, I did not make them feel
threatened by making them think I was going to stick like glue to them
all night. A lot of guys make their mistake by talking to a girl and
if she answers, he tries to hog her time. I remarked I like to dance,
but I did not ask her to dance at this time because I wanted to give
her some time to think.
I saw Lisa and Joyce a couple more times that night and I was
friendly to them each time, but I still did not hog their time. I
figured I would run into them again. I did run into them again, the
following week, and this time Lisa was real friendly. She was all
smiles when she saw me and treated me like and old friend. I finally
danced with her and we had a very good time. I laughed and joked and
treated her like a good friend.
She said she was very comfortable with me. I have not asked her
out yet, but whenever I see her we have a good time dancing and a lot
of guys envy me because I'm dancing with such a beautiful girl. You
can do the same. The same thing happened to me with another girl named
Jackie. She turned me down three different times when I asked her to
dance but I did not make the mistake a lot of guys make. I did not put
her down and I did not hold it against her because she did not dance
with me.
What I did do was talk to her a few minutes each time I saw her.
We became friends. After a couple months of running into her at the
same bar she asked me why I never asked her to dance. I told her she
turned me down three times. She didn't remember but we did dance and I
did take her out a few times.
The lesson here is to talk to as many
women as you can as friends. Many of them will turn out to be more
than friends, mark my words. If you remember nothing else, just remember that women
are human beings, not sex objects. Treat them as such, and you will
have success beyond your wildest dreams. |
